I’ve Got Your Back

Everyone wants someone who will always have their back in life no matter what happens. I know I have one and so should you. It’s that giver of never-ending second chances. It’s that person whom you abuse but still calls to make sure you are okay and works with you to mend hard times. In a life surrounded by daily interactions with humankind, we tend to place high value upon certain relations with certain people and devalue others. Right or wrong, this is normal. However, Few Relationships In Earth Never Die.


F – F is for Faith. Firstly, your friend should have all kinds of faith: faith in God, faith in you, faith in your relationship, faith in him/herself, faith in your hard times, and faith in your good times. Faithfulness is the bond or cushion on which you both can rely; meaning, it is the backbone of a sincere camaraderie that will last through the toughest of times. 

R – R is for Realness. Regardless of anything, it is absolutely incumbent upon you and your friend to keep each other real. Never let your friend think they are above or below their God-given state of being. Don’t let your friend think they are too poor to be worth happiness or too rich to care about the happiness of others. Let them tell you you’re wrong, accept it, then fix it. Your friend should be the other side of the see-saw or hanging scales – always keeping you balance.

I – I is for Identity. In looking at your friend you should be able to see a reflection of yourself, your core values, and of course your God. Identity means fundamentally understanding who you are and what you stand for in this world of ever-changing popularity and morality. Your relationship with this friend should be such that each of you can not only predict what the other would do in a particular scenario but also be able to depend on that prediction.

E – E is for Empowerment. Encouragement is one thing, but empowerment entails actually giving you the strength you need to carry on. A true friend will have their own way of doing this for you that only you will be able to see. (It’s that “special connection”) Just as the Lord told us that we “can do all things through Christ who strengthens [us],” your friend should at least be your earthly hope and strength as Christ is your much more important eternal one.

N – N is for Non-judging. Never ever is judging acceptable. If your friend is judgmental of you, how can they possible be there for you in your tough times as a faithful friend trying to keep you real, restoring your identity and empowering you? Judgment is the poison of a healthy friendship. A person who knows every single thing that you’ve done and is still right there when you need them… that is non-judging angel.

D – D is for Depth. Does it ever happen that when you’re with this friend or on the phone or online or whatever, you look down and realize you two have been talking for hours and neither of you has even felt it? It’s almost as if the person’s voice is your favorite song and you don’t want to shut it off. Depth means being able to learn something each time you interact with your friend without realizing that you’ve also taught them something.

“A man of many companions may come to ruin, except there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”   – Proverbs 18:24

“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted,  but an enemy multiplies kisses.”   – Proverbs 27:5-6


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I am a 29 year old Coptic-American living in Los Angeles.
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